In all of my years of counseling individuals and couples, I have never seen any other behavior produce a pattern of pain and misery as predictable as that which happens to an individual and his marriage when he views pornography. Let me briefly outline the pattern as I see it.

Question: My husband recently retired and we seem to be out of sync with each other. I began working after our last child left the home several years ago and now he’s frustrated that I’m not home as much. I plan to retire from my job someday in the future, but what can we do in the meantime to decrease the tension in our marriage?

Do you want a quick and effective technique to help you manage the constant onslaught of sexually charged images that bombard you on a daily basis?

It’s as easy as 1….2….3!

Remember that secrecy is the lifeblood of addiction. One of the most powerful ways to break the compulsive cycle of sexual addiction is to step out of the shadows of secrecy
and isolation. People who have disclosed secret behaviors often report that the disclosure was an essential step in their recovery.

The best news is that healing from an addiction to pornography not only offers an individual an opportunity to stop life-damaging behaviors, but also creates a completely new way of living life. Individuals who commit to full recovery will discover a new version of themselves previously unimagined.

Question: My daughter and son-in-law are struggling in their marriage. My daughter has hinted at the fact that they are contemplating separation and possibly divorce. I want to know what I can do to help them without being nosey and making things worse.

Question: I’m feeling threatened by the amount of time my spouse is spending “connecting” with old friends and ex-partners on Facebook. Am I making a big deal about nothing?

Question: I can’t seem to figure out how to make enough time for all of the demands on my schedule. I want to balance my time between family, work, church and community volunteer commitments, and personal time. However, I always seem to come up short and end up borrowing from one area to pay the other. Is there a way to make it all fit together?

Question: I am having a difficult time getting my kids into a good bedtime routine. Maybe it’s just the summer, but it seems like there is a battle every night to get them to bed on time. Any suggestions?

Question: My spouse has passwords on her phone and email account that I don’t have access to. When I ask her for the passwords, she accuses me of not trusting her and says that she should be able to have privacy. Of course, this just makes me more suspicious. Any suggestions?