Archive | August, 2010

The three second rule

Do you want a quick and effective technique to help you manage the constant onslaught of sexually charged images that bombard you on a daily basis?

It’s as easy as 1….2….3!

Secrets and Isolation

Remember that secrecy is the lifeblood of addiction. One of the most powerful ways to break the compulsive cycle of sexual addiction is to step out of the shadows of secrecy
and isolation. People who have disclosed secret behaviors often report that the disclosure was an essential step in their recovery.

RoadMap for Recovery

The best news is that healing from an addiction to pornography not only offers an individual an opportunity to stop life-damaging behaviors, but also creates a completely new way of living life. Individuals who commit to full recovery will discover a new version of themselves previously unimagined.

Q&A: Offering support

Question: My daughter and son-in-law are struggling in their marriage. My daughter has hinted at the fact that they are contemplating separation and possibly divorce. I want to know what I can do to help them without being nosey and making things worse.

Q&A: Partner’s social networking

Question: I’m feeling threatened by the amount of time my spouse is spending “connecting” with old friends and ex-partners on Facebook. Am I making a big deal about nothing?

Q&A: Balancing life

Question: I can’t seem to figure out how to make enough time for all of the demands on my schedule. I want to balance my time between family, work, church and community volunteer commitments, and personal time. However, I always seem to come up short and end up borrowing from one area to pay the other. Is there a way to make it all fit together?

Q&A: Bedtime routine

Question: I am having a difficult time getting my kids into a good bedtime routine. Maybe it’s just the summer, but it seems like there is a battle every night to get them to bed on time. Any suggestions?

Q&A: Privacy vs. secrecy

Question: My spouse has passwords on her phone and email account that I don’t have access to. When I ask her for the passwords, she accuses me of not trusting her and says that she should be able to have privacy. Of course, this just makes me more suspicious. Any suggestions?

Q&A: Family finances

Question: My husband and I were raised totally different. He came from a family that didn’t have a lot of money, so he’s very careful. While my family was not rich, we were very giving of what we had. We live on a budget and don’t have a lot of discretionary money, but we do have extra each month that we could share occasionally with others in need. So, here’s my question: is it alright to do those things without telling my husband? I wouldn’t even ask he’d never know, and I’d never openly lie about it; I’d just do it in private…so, what do you say?

Q&A: Grandparents parenting influence

Question: My parents are taking it upon themselves to “parent” my three children. I feel like I’m re-living my childhood as I watch them interact with my children. I’m not against them helping the children obey, but I have a problem with the way they do it. I’ve made it a point to do things differently with my own children, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my parents. It’s as if they think I’m not raising my children correctly. How can I improve this situation?