I just found out my 11-year-old has read an inappropriate young adult novel. The novel is about 16-year-old girls who form a friendship at their shoplifters anonymous group. The book has inappropriate language and graphic sexual content. I am beyond crushed and upset.
My daughter received the book as a gift a few months ago. After reading the synopsis at the back, I told her I would have to read the book first to see if it was appropriate for her. I placed it on the top shelf of a bookcase beyond her reach and forgot about it. Tonight, while tucking her into bed, I noticed the book on her nightstand.
I picked up the book and skimmed through it and noticed inappropriate language and sexual content. I asked her how much of the book she had read, and she said, “All of it.” When I asked her to tell me what the book was about, she only detailed the shoplifting and friendship the girls in the book experienced.
I told her the book was not appropriate for her and was very upset she read it after I told her I needed to read through it first. I told her I would now read through the book, and we would discuss it later.
I am freaking out. I was not anticipating having to give the sex talk to an 11-year-old, not to mention having to now talk about certain graphic sexual acts.
What do I do? What do I say? I am crying for the lost innocence of my child and the cavalier way this has been introduced to her. Please help.