GEOFF STEURER, MS, LMFT

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My husband’s older sister was widowed two years ago. She has no children and no other siblings. Prior to this, she would barely give my husband and me the time of day. However, since being widowed, she had bonded to us like cement!

We were there for her throughout the initial difficulties, but now my husband has made himself more than...

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My son is 40 years old, an alcoholic and is separated from his wife. He is also having financial issues. He can work from home, so he came home to stay with us so he can regroup. We told him he could stay, but he couldn’t drink in our home. Evidently, that rule was broken the first day he came. 

We have helped him with his bills...

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My wife and I have been married for many years, and we have a large and loving family. However, our relationship has always been somewhat distant and shallow, even as newlyweds, since we dated and married fairly quickly. I have taken responsibility for this, as I’ve never been good at relationships and have always defaulted to sulking...

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I am currently in a relationship in which we have been dating for six months. A few months ago, we were talking about marriage, and there were times I felt like it could work and times where I felt sincere doubt about that choice.

I’ve sought confirmation from God that it’s right, and I’ve felt good about the relationship. I...

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My husband and his then-girlfriend had a baby girl when they were teenagers. They placed this child for adoption, and their teenage relationship didn’t last long after that and they broke up. Forty years later, this daughter contacted my husband, they met, we met, we get along, she and her husband come to family gatherings, and...

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I recently got married and have been put in a difficult position. My wife came into our marriage with her 11-year-old son from her first marriage. There were many reasons why she left her marriage, but the short story is that her ex-husband didn’t keep his marital vows. Our family life and his family life are starkly different.

We are...

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I walked in on my husband looking at pornography. I was crushed because he knew how I felt about pornography and promised he wouldn’t view it. Now all I can think about is him wanting to look at it.

When he comes home from work, he likes to relax in the bedroom so he can cool down because he works outside. I’m in the other room...

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Since the death of our mother last year, the relationship I have with my sisters has disintegrated. I'm being accused of posting mean things about them on social media. I have not done any such thing. I love them both and would not do that. The one sister doesn't even use social media and sent me a message that though she doesn't have...