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When Romance Feels Unsafe after Betrayal
After betrayal, romance is often one of the first casualties. What once felt natural can suddenly feel confusing, pressured, performative, or even unsafe. And when holidays like Valentine’s Day roll around, those...
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When Relationship Work Makes Things Worse
After betrayal, most couples assume the relationship is the place to start. Something has been broken, so the instinct is to talk more, reconnect, and repair the bond as quickly as possible. Wanting relief, closeness,...
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Stop Asking if it's Working
After betrayal, reassurance becomes a quiet but powerful force in many relationships. Sometimes it shows up as a direct question. More often it appears as checking, hinting, watching reactions, or scanning for signs...
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Is it Fear or Actual Danger?
There are moments in recovery when something small suddenly feels overwhelming. A pause in conversation. A shift in tone. A missing detail. What looked ordinary a second ago now feels charged, and before either...
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Can You Heal without Forgiving?
After betrayal, forgiveness is often introduced almost immediately as the goal. People may say that healing depends on it, that moving forward requires it, or that forgiveness is the sign you are doing better. For...
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Is There Room for the Betrayer's Pain?
Is There Room for the Betrayer’s Pain?
Betrayal recovery often centers, understandably, on the pain of the betrayed partner. That pain is visible, consuming, and destabilizing. But beneath the surface, the recovering...
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Using Recovery to Manipulate, Control, and Confuse
Recovery can look convincing on the outside and still be deeply dishonest underneath. The meetings are attended. The books are read. The language sounds right. And yet, something does not feel settled or safe.
In this...
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Does the Type of Betrayal Matter?
When betrayal enters a relationship, one of the first questions people ask is, How bad was it really? Was it pornography, emotional connection, secret messages, a one time physical event, or something ongoing? Many...
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You Can Face What You Fear
Avoidance is one of the most common reactions to emotional pain. It shows up as silence, staying busy, withdrawing, shutting down, or convincing yourself that “things will sort themselves out.” At first it feels...
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A Holiday Message from Us
The holidays can stir up a full range of emotions, especially when you are carrying the weight of relational pain or the uncertainty of the healing process. In this episode, we step away from our usual structure and...
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What Really Determines Whether Healing Moves Forward
After betrayal, even small mistakes can feel enormous. A forgotten detail, a defensive tone, or a moment of old behavior can land like a major setback. In this episode, Geoff and Jody talk about why these moments feel...
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Why You're Not Healing at the Same Speed
One of the most common fears couples face after betrayal is the feeling of being out of sync. One partner seems to be moving faster. The other feels stuck or confused. One wants to talk. The other wants space. And...
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