The Truth About Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal

Yes! Courageous Together™ is designed to support healing, no matter your relationship status. The program provides a structured path for individuals as well as couples, so you can engage in a way that best fits your situation:

• If you’re single – Even though this is a program built for couples, you can still work through the program to focus on your personal healing and growth. You'll gain insights into relational patterns and rebuilding trust in yourself.
• If you’re separated – The program is already designed so each of you participate individually with separate logins, allowing for independent access and work. You get to decide how much you want to work together with your partner.
• If your relationship feels fragile – Couples can go through the program together, even if trust is uncertain. Each registration provides access for two people, so you can do individual work within a relational context.

If you're unsure and want to talk about your situation, you can schedule a 15-min clarity call.

Yes. Courageous Together™ is built for couples across the full spectrum of betrayal recovery, whether you are just trying to survive the shock of discovery or working to rebuild connection after months or years of effort.

Every stage of recovery requires different support:

• In the crisis stage, your nervous system is overwhelmed. You need stabilization, clarity, and safety before you can make long-term decisions. The program gives you step-by-step guidance to regulate your body, understand what’s happening, and take your next right steps without being rushed or pressured.
• In the rebuilding stage, the focus shifts to accountability, emotional attunement, and laying the groundwork for trust. You’ll learn how to respond to triggers, repair ruptures, and begin rewiring old relational patterns.
• In the growth stage, the work becomes deeper and more intentional. This includes expanding intimacy, strengthening partnership, and building a future that is not defined by betrayal but transformed by the healing process you’ve walked through together.



No matter where you are in your timeline, Courageous Together™ meets you with the structure, tools, and support you need for that stage while preparing you for what comes next. The path is clear, but it is not rigid. You move forward in a way that honors your nervous system, protects your safety, and supports long-term healing.

• Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 26+ years of experience treating betrayal, compulsive behaviors, and relational recovery.
• Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through APSATS.
• Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
• Master Certified in Accelerated Resolution Trauma Therapy (ART)
• Author of "Love You, Hate the Pørn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity"
• Creator of extensive curriculum and workbooks
• National presenter and trainer for therapists
• Host of the "From Crisis to Connection" podcast
• Founder and 15-year director of a three-phase couples recovery program focused on healing from sexual betrayal
• Weekly relationship columnist for 18+ years

Most people start noticing small shifts immediately as they apply the tools and engage in the process.

As you know, healing and rebuilding trust take time—think of this process more like nurturing a garden. Small, consistent efforts create lasting, meaningful changes.

The program is structured as a 12-month journey, but the deeper work of healing will take much longer than that.

This time frame gives you a focused period of time to do your work individually and together without the pressure to get immediate results.

Most couples find that doing focused work for 12 months brings measurable changes, but please recognize that the recovery healing journey extends way beyond any set time frame.

The goal is to cultivate trust, connection, and emotional safety that will support you and your relationship for years to come

Courageous Together™ is a relational healing program.

That means everything we do, whether focused on personal healing or relationship repair, is designed to strengthen your ability to be safe, connected, and trustworthy in relationship with one another.

We begin with individual work because relational healing isn’t possible without personal grounding, truth, and safety. We make sure you don’t lose yourself in this process. Instead, we want you to find yourself so you can show up relationally in a healthy, secure way. Instead of separating “individual” and “couples” work, the program integrates them. The early stages help each partner stabilize, build insight, and develop personal accountability within the context of the relationship. From there, the program guides you into structured relational repair when it’s safe and appropriate.

Whether you and your partner are moving together or at different speeds, you’ll each be supported through a clear path that honors your timing, protects your safety, and leads toward relational wholeness.

Healing happens in relationship. Courageous Together™ gives you the structure, tools, and support to do that, personally and together.

Absolutely. Research and real-life experience show that couples can heal and rebuild trust after betrayal.

Each person has specific individual tasks in the healing process as they work to figure out the future of the relationship:

• The partner who broke trust must show genuine remorse, accountability, and consistent effort to rebuild safety.
• The betrayed partner needs space to process, set healthy boundaries, and reclaim their voice in the healing process.

It takes time, commitment, and intentional effort from both partners.

Recovery is about creating something stronger, healthier, and more honest than before. The couples who commit to this process develop a deeper and more authentic connection to themselves and each other.

Healing is possible. Courageous Together™ is here to guide you through it.

Healing from betrayal trauma takes time because it requires full neurological and relational recalibration. Your brain cannot rebuild trust through information alone. It needs lived experiences of safety repeated over time.

It takes a full year of stable recovery behaviors for the betrayed partner’s nervous system to register safety and begin restoring trust pathways. The brain must encounter every season, every holiday, every stress cycle, and see consistent change before it believes repair is real.

For the partner who broke the trust, lasting change also requires time. Defensive habits, numbing behaviors, and disconnect patterns are often deeply ingrained. Developing genuine empathy, emotional tolerance, and relational reliability is a transformational process that unfolds over months of repeated practice.

Twelve months is the minimum amount of time required to begin this deep restructuring. It allows both partners to experience an entire year of new patterns, so the healing is not theoretical. You'll want it to become embodied and trustworthy.

Courageous Together™ is built to hold you through that full cycle. It gives you the time and support necessary to establish real change, not temporary relief. You are welcome to continue beyond the first year for as long as you need support, but the first 12 months create the foundation your relationship will build upon.

The pricing for the program is PER COUPLE, which means that you only pay for one account.

Here's how you both gain access from your account:

• Partner 1 registers and pays
• After checking out, Partner 1 will receive a companion code via email.
• Partner 1 shares the companion code with Partner 2.
• Partner 2 goes to the program sign-up page and enters their companion code and creates their own account and login.
• The companion code will zero out the payment option so Partner 2 doesn't have to pay.

I personally host the group coaching calls, answer all the questions, and actively engage in the forum, providing guidance and answering questions. My commitment is to offer personalized support throughout your journey.

You won’t be left to figure things out on your own. I’ll be there to help you navigate the challenges, gain clarity, and take meaningful steps toward healing.

You’ll have direct access to me in Courageous Together in the following ways:

1. Weekly support and strategy calls.
   These are webinar-style (no mics/cameras) groups where I answer your questions live and interact with those on the call. These are recorded so you can review anytime.
2. Private discussion forums.
   I've created private spaces for betrayed partners, recovering partners, and couples so you can openly give and receive support. You'll interact anonymously both with me and with others in the program.
3. Ask Geoff feature.
   You can ask me anonymous questions anytime that I will then answer and post inside a searchable library.

If you’re looking for more individualized guidance, you’ll also have the option to purchase one-on-one private sessions with me for personalized support in the program.

No matter where you are in the process, you won’t have to navigate it alone. I’m here to help.

Courageous Together™ is designed as a structured, trauma-informed roadmap to help couples rebuild trust and move forward after betrayal. It’s different from therapy in a few key ways:

• Self-Paced and Accessible – Unlike therapy, where sessions are scheduled and progress depends on the time spent with a professional, Courageous Together™ gives you immediate access to expert guidance anytime, at your own pace. You’re not limited to an hour a week. You can revisit materials as often as needed.
• Guided, But Not Customized – Therapy offers personalized, in-depth support based on your specific circumstances. Courageous Together™ provides a structured framework, tools, and support that help you and your partner navigate healing together, but it’s not a replacement for professional therapy, especially when deeper work is needed.
• Focused on the Couple’s Journey – While individual therapy often focuses on personal healing, Courageous Together™ is designed to help couples move forward together. It provides a shared experience with actionable steps both partners can take to rebuild connection and trust.
• More Affordable Than Therapy or Coaching – Private therapy and coaching can be expensive, and while they offer immense value, not every couple can access them consistently. Courageous Together™ is a lower-cost way to receive expert guidance and tools to help you stay on track in your healing.

If you or your partner need deeper individual or couples support, therapy can be a great complement to this program. In Courageous Together™, you get a clear, structured way to work through betrayal and problematic behaviors individually and together.

Accountability in Courageous Together™ is not enforced or tracked. It is supported through structure, rhythm, and consistent opportunities for you to check in with your own progress and intentions.

The program creates a steady environment that keeps recovery visible and accessible so you don’t lose momentum or drift back into old patterns.

Built-in accountability features: 

• In-app calendar with all upcoming calls and groups
  You can see exactly what’s available each week at a glance. No searching, no guessing. It’s all laid out for you in real time.
• Automated reminders
  If you enable notifications, the app reminds you the day before and one hour before each call or group session, prompting you to pause and reconnect with your healing goals.
• Weekly rhythm of live connection
  Every call is an opportunity to reflect, recommit, and receive guidance. Whether you join live or watch the replay, you are consistently brought back into alignment with your values and your recovery path.
• Self-guided growth tools
  The videos, exercises, and worksheets are designed to challenge you to be honest with yourself and engage deeply...if you choose to.

For the Recovering Partner  

You are invited to show accountability through consistent participation, truthfulness, and emotional engagement. No one will chase you, but every week you are offered opportunities to step into responsibility and growth.

For the Betrayed Partner  

You are supported in staying connected to your own needs and safety. The weekly rhythm helps you track how things feel in your body, evaluate your partner’s consistency, and make decisions based on real data—not hope alone.

Accountability in this program comes from your commitment to healing.  

The structure is there every single week. The reminders are there. The support is there.

Your willingness to engage is what turns that structure into transformation.