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Real healing needs a trusted guide.

For over 25 years, I’ve helped people find their way through betrayal, trauma, and disconnection — with therapy, teaching, and tools designed to support real change.

Meet Geoff Steurer

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from betrayal, trauma, and disconnection. I earned a bachelor’s degree in communication studies from Brigham Young University and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from Auburn University.

I’m certified as a Clinical Partner Specialist (APSATS), hold advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and am a Master Certified Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) practitioner.

I offer therapy and online resources to help people rebuild trust and strengthen their most important relationships. My resources are used by individuals, couples, and professionals around the world. I live and practice in Southern Utah with my wife, Jody. We’ve been married since 1996 and are the parents of four children.

Meet Geoff Steurer

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from betrayal, trauma, and disconnection. I earned a bachelor’s degree in communication studies from Brigham Young University and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy from Auburn University.

I’m certified as a Clinical Partner Specialist (APSATS), hold advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and am a Master Certified Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) practitioner.

I offer therapy and online resources to help people rebuild trust and strengthen their most important relationships. My resources are used by individuals, couples, and professionals around the world. I live and practice in Southern Utah with my wife, Jody. We’ve been married since 1996 and are the parents of four children.

Professional Endorsements

Geoff Steurer is a real gem in the field of treating sex addiction and betrayal trauma. He is a wealth of wisdom and experience, and he utilizes his expertise in an approach that's direct, compassionate, and also betrayal-trauma sensitive. I'm honored to know Geoff, and I look forward to seeing how he continues advancing our field forward. 


Geoff Steurer’s Courageous Together program fills a critical gap in betrayal trauma recovery by offering a clear, step-by-step roadmap for couples seeking to heal their relationship after sexual betrayal. While many resources focus solely on individual healing, this innovative program courageously tackles the complexities of relational repair and provides much-needed guidance for couples navigating this painful journey.

Geoff Steurer is a trusted colleague and one of the few people I refer to when couples need expert support in healing after betrayal. His compassion, clarity, and integrity create a safe space for betrayed partners while offering practical and effective guidance to help couples move forward. Geoff is a regular speaker at the Betrayal Healing Conference I host each year, and I deeply value his voice in the field.

A Trusted Voice in relational healing respected by couples and professionals worldwide

EXPERIENCE
Over 25 years guiding couples and individuals through betrayal trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, and relational disconnection using evidence-based tools grounded in attachment, trauma, and emotional regulation.
Impact
Created trusted frameworks and resources that have supported healing and reconnection for thousands of couples and individuals navigating the painful realities of betrayal and disconnection.
Achievements
Author of a best-selling book and host of a popular podcast - both used by couples, professionals, and support communities worldwide.


Community
Founded and directed a couples recovery program for 14+ years and created community conferences to strengthen families and marriages.


Credentials
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist, Master Certified in Accelerated Resolution Therapy, Advanced Training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
TRUSTED VOICE
Regularly invited to speak at conferences, lead professional trainings, and contribute to podcasts and publications.



Trust is the heartbeat of every relationship. Whether you’re fighting to earn it back or struggling to trust again, you don’t have to do it alone.

My Mission

I help individuals and couples rebuild trust, reconnect emotionally, and create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and compassion. Whether you’re reeling from betrayal, working to repair what’s been broken, or trying to find your way back to each other, I provide the tools, support, and structure to help you move forward with clarity and hope.

  • Rebuilding Trust

Helping couples and individuals face betrayal and disconnection with courage, rebuild safety, and anchor their relationship in respect and truth.

  • Empowering Growth

Supporting deeper self-awareness and personal responsibility so each person can heal, grow, and show up more fully in relationships.

  • Strengthening Connection

Guiding partners toward open communication, empathy, and emotional safety so their connection becomes a source of strength and healing

  • Building a Healing Community

Creating spaces - both online and in person - where individuals and couples know they're not alone in their healing journey.

My Book

Love You, Hate the Porn

Pornography addiction can shatter trust and intimacy — but it doesn’t have to destroy your marriage. Love You, Hate the Porn offers a compassionate roadmap for couples ready to heal, rebuild connection, and create a relationship stronger than before. With honesty, empathy, and hope, this book helps you move from pain to true partnership.

Why You Need This Book
  • Heal Together: Learn how both partners can recover and rebuild emotional safety without losing themselves or each other.
  • Rebuild Trust: Step-by-step guidance to restore honesty, accountability, and emotional connection.
  • Strengthen Your Marriage: Turn pain into deeper love, resilience, and lasting intimacy.
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What People are Saying

Evelyn t.
This book really taught us so much on nurturing our marriage, breaking the pull on addiction, techniques that really helped soothe and emotionally bridge us to each other from what we thought was a point of no return. I highly recommend if a loved one is suffering from this addiction to truly take the time to read this fantastic book. You will not regret it. This book can save your marriage (along with other tools too and practicing what they say!) Indulge in this book because it has invaluable advice.
S. Alexander
This book keeps with today's world in acknowledging not only how we can be hurt by pornography use, but why, without constantly bringing up how your partner has failed in life or sinned. This book keeps with today's world in acknowledging not only how we can be hurt by pornography use, but why, without constantly bringing up how your partner has failed in life or sinned. 


Judd/ Green Family
This is a wonderful book that helps both men and women understand the way each others sees porn. I had a really hard time explaining my feelings about this to my husband, he never seemed to fully understand that some connection was lost between us when the infidelity happened. After my husband agreed to read this book with me. It really spoke to his heart and explained to him exactly how I saw the situation. He has been so open an honest with me now, which in turn has reconnected us as a couple.
Angie
If you are willing, open minded enough to want to change, you can. This book helps to give examples of actual couples and their struggles to help themselves and each other. I felt he became more aware of his addiction and the damage it caused to himself and to me. And I know now his addiction, it's not my fault and never was. So far, as long as he is honest with me, it's been good between my husband and I. 


R.M. Snider
Many books about sexual betrayal are triggering because they go into too much detail. This book has terrific advice for a couple dealing with sexual betrayal in regards to how they speak to one another, relate to one another, respond to one another, and insight into how the other is feeling. It's a recommended read for both people in the marriage. You'll gain tools for communicating that I couldn't find in any other book on this topic.

maria
After my husband disclosed that he was addicted to porn, I brushed it off saying "all men do that" and moved on. Several more revelations about his "problem" later I finally understood this was real. 
Thank you for this book and for letting me know my feelings are normal. My husband said after reading it that it's as if someone was in our house watching us! It is such a relief to know I am understood.

SadieLove
Had this on my wishlist for like a year and wish I’d bought it way sooner! This is an excellent book, well written and researched. It’s useful for gaining knowledge/understanding of you and your partner’s experience and gives practical advice to try. I was surprised that it’s intended for couples, the title was a bit misleading, but it’s still a great book.



OCSken
This book was invaluable in helping both my husband and I start the process of healing and recovery from his porn addiction. I read it first and found myself relating to so much of it and highlighting so many passages. My husband read it next and also related to so many things and found himself highlighting so many sections as well. It opened the door for honest conversations and helped us both have empathy for each other's perspectives in this terrible and hurtful situation.