GEOFF STEURER, MS, LMFT

Gaelyn Rae Emerson joins me to talk about the impact of abandonment on women dealing with betrayal trauma from pornography and sexual addiction. She outlines a method she uses to help women move toward healing when they've been abandoned. In this episode: 

- She defines the term “sexual abandonment”.

- She describes the role...

The uncertainty of a potential relapse often leaves betrayed women anxious and tense. They wonder when the next betrayal will happen and how they'll respond. Even though there is no way to predict the future, my guest in this episode, Gaelyn Rae Emerson, says that women can prepare themselves and develop resilience in the face of future relapses,...

Question

My wife and I have been married for many years, and we have a large and loving family. However, our relationship has always been somewhat distant and shallow, even as newlyweds, since we dated and married fairly quickly. I have taken responsibility for this, as I’ve never been good at relationships and have always defaulted to sulking...

Sheltering in place is tough for most people, but it's especially difficult for couples who were already distressed before they were required to spend days on end together. And, tragically, sheltering in place can also increase the risk of physical and emotional abuse for vulnerable family members. In this episode, I share eleven ways distressed...

Lots of men are telling me they're feeling overwhelmed with fear about providing for their families during this COVID-19 economic downturn. Even though both men and women are losing income during this time, men generally take it harder. A lot of guys will numb out on TV, phones, gaming, food, and isolate away from their loved ones. Some will get...

Question

I am currently in a relationship in which we have been dating for six months. A few months ago, we were talking about marriage, and there were times I felt like it could work and times where I felt sincere doubt about that choice.

I’ve sought confirmation from God that it’s right, and I’ve felt good about the relationship. I...

How do we stay emotionally healthy in the midst of a global pandemic? In this special episode, I team up with Amy Cluff, a therapist who specializes in working with betrayal trauma and child/family therapy, to talk about specific ways we can all maintain our emotional health when facing these unprecedented global fears and uncertainties. 

Building an authentic community around those struggling with pornography addiction and betrayal trauma is essential for recovery. Steven, from Unashamed Unafraid, shares his experience of hearing how many couples have shared their story of addiction recovery. Geoff and Steven discuss why it is important for those struggling to share their story and...

Question

My husband and his then-girlfriend had a baby girl when they were teenagers. They placed this child for adoption, and their teenage relationship didn’t last long after that and they broke up. Forty years later, this daughter contacted my husband, they met, we met, we get along, she and her husband come to family gatherings, and...

Question

Our fifth child is in her early 30s and living with us at home for the past several years. She’s divorced with no children. When she was a baby, she seemed to suffer with brain fog. Life is difficult for her.